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In a recent study performed out of the neurobiology department at Stanford University, 1000 subjects were place in an fMRI (Functional magnetic resonance imaging) machine that scanned their brain, while they were flashed a series of images of random objects. A plate, chair, towel, stick of deodorant, and so on. Mixed in between the images was a random human being, flashed in less than the time it takes to blink an eye (which is too fast for the conscious brain to recognize it). When the subjects were informed about the human in the stack of images, and were asked to identify the gender – the subjects were able to guess right with a 90% accuracy rate. What’s the point? It’s that gender is hard-wired into our brains. We’re wired to recognize (subconsciously, before we’re even able to recognize) what the gender is of whomever we come in contact with. And with that, goes this idea that gender is fluid. That gender is some cultural construct. That we can adopt whatever gender we want, despite what we’re born as. And it’s also because of studies like this (along with many others), that prove that men and women aren’t exactly equal. The truth is, we couldn’t be further from. So what happens when you live in a world where the idea is that men and women are equal, when in reality they’re not? Well, you get workplace issues, relationship issues, and of course, dating issues – which singles can’t seem to complain enough about. The genders are currently so rife with tension right now, that all one needs to do is look on Twitter, along with the rest of social media to see that we’re in the midst of a huge gender war. It’s the feminists vs the meninists. And it’s a battle that manifested itself into this year’s presidential election with Hilary as the feminist, and Trump, the misogynist. So how’s about we pause for a moment and see what’s really going on by looking at some very fundamental ways in which men and women are totally unequal, using each owns approach to reproduction (aka: dating and relationships). After all, that’s what we humans, along with every other species on this planet is here to do – propagate our genes. It’s an agenda that by which all the rest of our behaviors stem from.
“Men want a sex symbol. Women want a status symbol.” Only up until about the last 40 years, have women relied on men for resources and safety. Why? Because women get pregnant. For nine months their bodies are compromised by an unborn baby that is sapping energy and resources, putting them in a situation where they absolutely replied on men to protect them from the danger. This is why when it comes to coupling up, women inherently seek a man of status, as men of status commonly have resources and power. Men on the other hand, well (to state the obvious), don’t get pregnant. Their main survival strategy is to reproduce with as men women as possible, with the more reproductively fit being the most preferred. This is why men are obsessed with breasts, and ass, and porn, and have made women like Kim Kardashian famous, as such curves suggest high reproductive fecundity. It’s been this way for millions of year, and 40 years is just a blimp in the grand scheme of evolution.
“Men want to be admired. Women want to be desired.” It’s no coincidence that women fuel the multi-billion dollar industry that is the cosmetic and fashion industry. Because men want sex symbols, a woman’s survival strategy is to make herself as desirable as humanly possible. Men on the other hand, seek approval from women. Validation for their hard work to attain status. This is why they workout, climb corporate ladders, and fight or show signs of aggression all the time. They’re trying to show off how strong and powerful they are so that a woman will look up to him.
“Men give love for sex. Women give sex for love.” You only need to spend a minute on today’s dating scene to see that most men just want to “Netflix and Chill”. While women in their profiles explicitly say, “No Hookups.” Clearly the gender difference when it comes to sex is about the size from here to the moon. As a strategy, men will take a woman out for dinner, buy her flowers, and romance her until he gets laid. He’s giving acts of love for sex. But women on the other hand, will put out (especially if desperate enough) in the hopes that a man of her desires will stay with her. And as we’re currently experiencing, thanks to the online dating culture, a bit of a stale mate between the genders is currently occurring as both gender’s mating strategies have been exposed, leaving many unable to hook-up.
“Men dream about women. Women dream about being dreamt about.” One only needs to look at the gender of porn viewers to see that 99.9% of it is made up of men. Clearly, men dream about women. But women, they dream about being dreamt about. And this becomes evident by their online dating habits, as many women are happy to just sit on their dating app of choice, and bask in all the “likes” and “swipe rights” – often with no intention of ever engaging or dating. Essentially, the rattle men’s cages simply for the pleasure of their own validation.
“Men hunt. Women nest.” Are men hunters? You better believe it. This explains their competitiveness in sports, in the corporate world – and if they fail in those – they go home and play violent video games. Women on the other hand are not in the least bit hunters. They enjoy in more social, cooperative, peaceful activities. They also make up the bulk of Interior designers, decorators, event planners and coordinators. This is because they are wired to nest, to make their space (whatever and wherever it is) more livable and conducive to child raising. And, this is also why more and more women are starting to excel in the workforce, as their natural co-operative and social tendencies make them more employable than their male counterparts.
“Women are the choosers. Men are the chasers.” Do women ask men out? Sure. At about a rate of 1 in every 10,000. Everyone knows that when it comes to dating, men have to do the asking. Why’s this? It goes right back to mating and what each gender needs from the other. Mating is very costly for a woman. Again, up until a few decades ago, she needed to rely on a man for safety, stability, security, and resources. But while she’s always been dependent on a man, she is, at the end of the day, in control of whether a man gets to reproduce or not. So he must, as he always has – and still does, despite today’s spirit of “equality” – have to win her over. He must prove that he is worthy of her by showing that he has what it takes to provide the security and stability she needs, a process by which he must initiate (i.e. ask her out).
“Men regret what they do in a relationship. Women regret the relationship.” As soon as a relationship ends, especially a tumultuous one, a man will instantly start going into regret mode. He’ll regret all the times he didn’t tell her he loved her, made her cry, didn’t bring her flowers – and especially – the time(s) he cheated. He regrets all the things he did, or didn’t do in the relationship. A women however, once the grieving is over, will simply regret the relationship. Women are often famous for saying things like “I wish I never met him”, or “I should have gotten out years early”. All statements men rarely make, if ever.
“Men cry after what they’ve lost. Women cry over what they don’t have.” As mentioned above, men regret their mistakes made in a relationship. They cry over the woman they’ve lost. This is why days, months, years – even decades later, men will still reach out to their ex. It’s all in the hopes of rekindling, and repairing what was broken. Whereas yes, a woman will cry – but more so not at the loss of the relationship, but as she looks at all her married with children friends, the husband, child, and family she failed to gain.
“Men dress for women. But women dress for women” When a man goes shopping he’s got only one thing in mind, “Will she like it?” Whether it’s his current wife, or future one, he’s dressing to impress the opposite sex. But as any woman will tell you, she doesn’t dress for a man. She dresses for other women. The compliments, copiers, and stares her outfit gets is far more satisfying and flattering, than the glares and stares from men. In fact, men staring is just “creepy” and unwanted.
“Men want to be a woman’s first love. Women want to be a man’s last romance.” In a recent report by the creators of the dating site OkCupid, they released the data that already confirms what we know to be true about the differences between the two genders. The data showed that women find their equal in age attractive. For example, a 20-year-old woman find a 20-year-old man attractive, A 30-year-old woman find a 30-year-old man attractive, a 40-year-old woman find a 40-year-old man attractive – and so on. But this wasn’t the case for men. What the data showed was that while a 20-year-old man finds a 20-year-old woman attractive, so does a 30-year-old man. And a 40-year-old man. And a 50-year-old man. And a 60-year-old man, and gross … right? Yes, when it comes to dating, men like and swipe younger. This is why virgins are so appealing to them, this is why every female Instagram star is still in her 20’s, and why past the age of 30, the dating scene becomes a nightmare for both genders, as men don’t want women their own age, and women, totally grossed out by men who go after young girls.